{"id":7597,"date":"2025-09-14T02:42:27","date_gmt":"2025-09-14T02:42:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/?post_type=artikelen&#038;p=7597"},"modified":"2026-02-10T14:52:52","modified_gmt":"2026-02-10T14:52:52","slug":"story-by-annemarije","status":"publish","type":"artikelen","link":"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/en\/artikelen\/verhaal-van-annemarije\/","title":{"rendered":"Annemarije Sjoerdsma on attachment trauma and recovery"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"7597\" class=\"elementor elementor-7597\" data-elementor-post-type=\"artikelen\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0fe75e5 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"0fe75e5\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1f68e90 elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1f68e90\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4>What is your experience with trauma?<\/h4><p>\u2018Loss and abandonment are the common thread. You could say there is a pre-natal and birth trauma. I was born from a hidden pregnancy. Hidden, born alone and immediately given up. In my first year of life, there was a succession of different caregivers. When I was eleven months old, I was adopted. My adoptive parents also brought a thread of love and resilience into my life.<\/p><p>\u2018I loved my adoptive mother very much, and vice versa. There was an obvious love between us. But a week after I turned fourteen, she suddenly passed away. That was when the journey of problems began. The loss was too great, and there was no one to mourn with. The events followed one after the other like a rollercoaster ride.<\/p><p>\u2018After my adoptive mother died, I lived with my stepfather, the man with whom my adoptive mother married after the separation of my adoptive parents. He felt very familiar to me. But six months after my adoptive mother died, he suffered a heart attack. He was making chicken soup for me at the time and was stressed. I had just been brought home drunk after drinking a bottle of vieux. My stepfather and his son blamed me for the heart attack. After that, my stepfather kicked me out of the house on my own. That was very confusing. The loss, the separation, and the renewed helplessness.\u2019<\/p><h4>What was the impact of all these experiences on you?<\/h4><p>\u2018Addiction. Addiction for support, regulation, calming, and structure. From the very beginning when my adoptive mother was no longer there, I reached for cigarettes and alcohol. The root cause is that I cannot be alone well. My system is still affected by stress. I think that\u2019s very old and goes back to the abandonment I felt as a baby.<br \/><br \/>\u2018After being thrown out of my home by my stepfather, I lived with a foster family for two years and then, from the age of sixteen until my nineteenth, in a therapeutic community. Then I moved into apartments. It wasn\u2019t until then that things really got out of hand. From that moment on, I led two lives.\u2019<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1447dea elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"1447dea\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma-2-768x1024.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-7603\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma-2-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma-2-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma-2-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma-2.jpg 1440w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b4c2380 elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b4c2380\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4>What did those two lives look like?<\/h4><p>\u2018Looking back, I can see that there were two parts within me. A strong and social part that could venture into the world. The Annemarije who studied journalism, later worked with pleasure at the Humanist Broadcasting, had good friendships, and enjoyed life. And there was the part that carried the burdens. The addicted part, that damaged itself, had an eating disorder and an alcohol addiction. It seemed as if this part functioned independently of me. I could detach myself from it, by being overwhelmed.<\/p><p>\u2018I have always found the helplessness of addiction the most impactful. You don\u2019t want to reach for the means, yet you still do it. That pull is so strong. Every day I thought to myself: I\u2019m going to get it under control. But then, when I was overwhelmed by sadness and despair and didn\u2019t know how to bear it or stop, I became rudderless.\u2019<br \/><br \/><\/p><h4>What brought about a turnaround?<\/h4><p>\u2018Around the age of twenty-five, I went to a hypnotherapist. There I experienced such a panic attack that I normally would have reached for medication immediately. In that moment, the therapist taught me how to use my breath to calm myself. For the first time, I felt what it was like to make space for my emotions and breathe into them. And then it all fell apart! At that moment, I realized that I had a choice. That I had the power to calm myself and that I didn\u2019t need anyone or anything for that. It was a shift to resilience.<br \/><br \/>\u2018Before that, everything was done automatically. With alcohol, but also with food. Episodes of binge eating and vomiting. But from the moment I experienced self-regulation physically, I could also consciously choose what I ate: I had a binge eating episode, but now I\u2019m not vomiting it up. I learned to tolerate and take responsibility. The mindfulness training I followed through the GGZ and the AA meetings also helped me with that. I gained more awareness and no longer did everything that came naturally to me automatically.<\/p><p>\u2018Later, books about trauma came my way. Like the inner work of IFS (Internal Family System therapy, ed.) and Hungry Souls by Gabor Mat\u00e9. That\u2019s when I started to understand how trauma and addiction work. I always thought: I have a disorder, I need to get out of this. The therapists taught me that I could make other choices, but I just couldn\u2019t do it. It was so confusing.<\/p><p>\u2018Through IFS and the book by Gabor Mat\u00e9, I was able to develop understanding for myself for the first time. I learned that my addiction was a trauma response, originating from a fragmented part. And instead of always being angry at that part, I went into conversation with it to get to know it. That fragmented child part was so afraid of being rejected and being alone. It needed nurturing and compassion. By caring for this part and for the other parts that worked hard to prevent me from feeling alone, I was able to become more and more sober step by step.\u2019<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7fe8bad e-grid e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"7fe8bad\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-287d14d elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"287d14d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.04.36-768x1024.jpeg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-4648\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.04.36-768x1024.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.04.36-225x300.jpeg 225w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.04.36-1152x1536.jpeg 1152w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.04.36.jpeg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-592357f elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"592357f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.03.47-768x1024.jpeg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-4649\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.03.47-768x1024.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.03.47-225x300.jpeg 225w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.03.47-1152x1536.jpeg 1152w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/WhatsApp-Image-2025-09-22-at-21.03.47.jpeg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6267432 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"6267432\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma-768x1024.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-7602\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/annemarije-sjoerdsma.jpg 1440w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-db179c3 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"db179c3\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1381091 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1381091\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4>How did your life change when you became sober?<\/h4><p>\u2018Being sober was really scary at first. As soon as you become sober, everything becomes even more appealing to you. You don\u2019t use it for nothing. It\u2019s really about letting go and you have to learn to regulate yourself in a different way. It felt like I was living naked. On the other hand, my self-confidence grew immediately and I was able to take more space.<\/p><p>\u2018I also felt guilty. I had been drinking and smoking during my pregnancies. When the children were small, I was a good mother, but I drank every night. I only experienced the consequences of this after I had sobered up. It still bothered me. I still feel the pain from that. But since the children are grown, I can feel more peace about it. This inner work also helps: I am not the guilty one. The guilt is a part, but there is so much more. Especially in recent years, working on this has given me more self-love. More understanding, warmth, and space within myself.\u2019<\/p><h4>Were his loved ones important in this process?<\/h4><p>\u2018Yes, it\u2019s vital. I\u2019ve learned to connect from within, but I needed other people for that. Good friends, my adoptive father and his wife who have always supported me, and the closeness of a partner who has been with me for 22 years. In the connection with them, I could relax so much that I was able to connect from within as well.<br \/><br \/>\u2018But there are limits to that. Even though I\u2019ve done all these body-focused therapies, when my husband leaves and I\u2019m alone at home, my system still suffers from stress. I have my breath, my cat, meditation, people I can call, thoughts that can reassure me. I have everything at my disposal, but that doesn\u2019t really help deep down. So there\u2019s still not a complete connection between me and that early part of me that shudders when it\u2019s alone.<\/p><p>\u2018Through years of therapy, I have always been working on improving myself. But lately I am increasingly realizing that it\u2019s about accepting that this is within me. I am entering a new phase and moving from doing to being. From wanting to change myself to actually accepting. Healing is love. Compassion for what is in you, without there having to be anything else. For me, that is a lifelong homecoming.\u2019<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-77ec784 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"77ec784\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">3X favorites of Annemarije<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9630da2 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"9630da2\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ac01a81 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"ac01a81\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c17bf43 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"c17bf43\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-73d651f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"73d651f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Book recommendation<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-265df52 e-transform elementor-view-default elementor-widget elementor-widget-icon\" data-id=\"265df52\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_transform_translateX_effect&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:15,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;_transform_translateY_effect&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:-15,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;_transform_translateX_effect_tablet&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;_transform_translateX_effect_mobile&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;_transform_translateY_effect_tablet&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;_transform_translateY_effect_mobile&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]}}\" data-widget_type=\"icon.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon\">\n\t\t\t<svg aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"e-font-icon-svg e-fas-book\" viewbox=\"0 0 448 512\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M448 360V24c0-13.3-10.7-24-24-24H96C43 0 0 43 0 96v320c0 53 43 96 96 96h328c13.3 0 24-10.7 24-24v-16c0-7.5-3.5-14.3-8.9-18.7-4.2-15.4-4.2-59.3 0-74.7 5.4-4.3 8.9-11.1 8.9-18.6zM128 134c0-3.3 2.7-6 6-6h212c3.3 0 6 2.7 6 6v20c0 3.3-2.7 6-6 6H134c-3.3 0-6-2.7-6-6v-20zm0 64c0-3.3 2.7-6 6-6h212c3.3 0 6 2.7 6 6v20c0 3.3-2.7 6-6 6H134c-3.3 0-6-2.7-6-6v-20zm253.4 250H96c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32 0-17.6 14.4-32 32-32h285.4c-1.9 17.1-1.9 46.9 0 64z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-953fc18 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"953fc18\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e13a31b e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e13a31b\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a0c65ed elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a0c65ed\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><a href=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/bibliotheek\/hongerige-geesten\/\">Hungry minds - Gabor Mat\u00e9<\/a><\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7de5e1e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7de5e1e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Annemarije:\u00a0<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2018This book excuses people with addiction. Mat\u00e9 explains how the lack of early nurturing leads to a disruption in the serotonin system. This makes it difficult to calm oneself down. Dopamine circuits become overactive. There is hardly any time between impulse and reaction. At the same time, Mat\u00e9 emphasizes the flexibility of brain pathways and explains how you can create more space and more choices with meditation and compassion. You learn to be with yourself, with everything that is.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bacaf0c e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"bacaf0c\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7651676 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"7651676\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/bibliotheek\/hongerige-geesten\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"550\" height=\"836\" src=\"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/Hongerige-geesten.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-3473\" alt=\"Hungry ghosts\" 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data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-06b2779 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"06b2779\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-835d9ab elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"835d9ab\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Source of inspiration: Peer support \u2013 Enik Recovery College<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fc2cd4f e-transform elementor-view-default elementor-widget elementor-widget-icon\" data-id=\"fc2cd4f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" 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