{"id":5942,"date":"2025-09-28T18:14:25","date_gmt":"2025-09-28T18:14:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/?post_type=veelgestelde-vragen&#038;p=5942"},"modified":"2025-09-28T18:14:59","modified_gmt":"2025-09-28T18:14:59","slug":"can-i-be-a-good-parent-while-i-myself-am-still-struggling","status":"publish","type":"veelgestelde-vragen","link":"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/en\/veelgestelde-vragen\/kan-ik-een-goede-ouder-zijn-terwijl-ik-zelf-nog-worstel\/","title":{"rendered":"Can I be a good parent while I am still struggling myself?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"5942\" class=\"elementor elementor-5942\" data-elementor-post-type=\"veelgestelde-vragen\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ede96ac e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"ede96ac\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8c0ffda elementor-widget__width-inherit elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8c0ffda\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Being a good parent doesn\u2019t mean you have to be perfect or never have to struggle. It\u2019s mostly about being able to give your child love, attention, and enough safety. It\u2019s precisely the awareness of your own pain that can help you be more attentive to your child\u2019s needs and do things differently.<\/p><p>Making mistakes or not handling something in a helpful way is part of parenting \u2013 with or without trauma. What makes the difference is whether you are willing to fix it. For children, it is most harmful when they do not understand what is happening or when a rift remains unaddressed. When you come back to something that went wrong, explain it or find words together, you show your child that connection can be restored. That is actually very powerful parenting.<\/p><p>Parenting can be tough when you have to combine this with your own recovery. That\u2019s why it\u2019s important to ask for support from the people around you, and if necessary, professional help as well. Support can also be practical, such as childcare or help around the house, so that you sometimes have extra space to recharge.<\/p><p>Don't forget: Taking care of yourself is also taking care of your child. It shows that self-care is normal and important.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Een goede ouder zijn betekent niet dat je perfect moet zijn of nooit mag worstelen. Het gaat er vooral om dat je je kind liefde, aandacht en voldoende veiligheid kunt geven. Juist het bewustzijn van je eigen pijn kan ervoor zorgen dat je meer oog hebt voor de behoeften van je kind en dingen anders [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":5918,"template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"give_campaign_id":0},"doelgroep":[12],"thema":[48],"class_list":["post-5942","veelgestelde-vragen","type-veelgestelde-vragen","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","doelgroep-iemand-met-trauma","thema-leven-met-trauma"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO Premium plugin v26.5 (Yoast SEO v26.5) - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Vraag: Kan ik een goede ouder zijn terwijl ik zelf nog worstel?<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Een goede ouder zijn betekent niet dat je perfect moet zijn of nooit mag worstelen. 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