{"id":5947,"date":"2025-09-28T18:16:50","date_gmt":"2025-09-28T18:16:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/?post_type=veelgestelde-vragen&#038;p=5947"},"modified":"2025-09-28T18:17:13","modified_gmt":"2025-09-28T18:17:13","slug":"how-do-i-deal-with-incomprehension-from-family-or-friends","status":"publish","type":"veelgestelde-vragen","link":"https:\/\/traumanet.nl\/en\/veelgestelde-vragen\/hoe-ga-ik-om-met-onbegrip-van-familie-of-vrienden\/","title":{"rendered":"How do I deal with a lack of understanding from family or friends?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"5947\" class=\"elementor elementor-5947\" data-elementor-post-type=\"veelgestelde-vragen\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ede96ac e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"ede96ac\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8c0ffda elementor-widget__width-inherit elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8c0ffda\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Not everyone understands what trauma does to you. Sometimes people respond by downplaying your symptoms (<i>\u201cAh, it\u2019s been so long now\u201d<\/i>), or they avoid the topic altogether. It can also happen that people don't believe you or even blame you for what has happened. This is also called <i>victim blaming<\/i> Such reactions can be extremely painful, sometimes even more so than the event itself.<\/p><p>Important to know: this says nothing about the truth of your story. It says something about the other person and their inability, ignorance, or fear. Sometimes it takes time for someone to process what you have told them. A first reaction can be distant or incredulous, while later, with more calm, space still opens up for conversation and understanding.<\/p><p>It can help to have someone read or watch something about trauma so they can better understand what\u2019s happening. But you don\u2019t have to convince anyone. You have the right to set boundaries and focus your energy primarily on the people who are willing to listen and be there for you. Your experiences are real, and they deserve to be taken seriously \u2013 even if others can\u2019t (yet).<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Niet iedereen begrijpt wat trauma met je doet. Soms reageren mensen door je klachten te bagatelliseren (\u201cach, het is al zo lang geleden\u201d), of ze vermijden het onderwerp helemaal. Het kan ook gebeuren dat mensen je niet geloven of je zelfs de schuld geven van wat er is gebeurd. Dit wordt ook wel victim blaming [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":5911,"template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"give_campaign_id":0},"doelgroep":[12],"thema":[48],"class_list":["post-5947","veelgestelde-vragen","type-veelgestelde-vragen","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","doelgroep-iemand-met-trauma","thema-leven-met-trauma"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO Premium plugin v26.5 (Yoast SEO v26.5) - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Vraag: Hoe ga ik om met onbegrip van familie of vrienden?<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Niet iedereen begrijpt wat trauma met je doet. Onbegrip van familie of vrienden kan heel pijnlijk zijn. 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